Momtrepenuer Milli Fox on Having It All, But Not At The Same Time
Meet Milli Fox: a badass momtrepeneur who has dedicated her days to running her business, Junior Foxes, raising her 22-month-old son alongside her hubs, and sharing her raw and real life experiences on her blog and Instagram.
Mama Milli is a fierce and inspirational working mom that spreads self-love and authenticity in everything she does. Read more about her story and get to know this fellow Chaotic Commuter below!
Name: Milli Fox
Kid(s): Rosen Fitzgerald Fox 22 months
Official work title and company: Owner of Junior Foxes ring slings, and a blogger for fun!
Location: Toronto, Ontario
Tell us more about Junior Foxes. (How you got started, where did the idea come from, how it has grown to the success it is today, etc.)
I was very into the idea of baby wearing from being a Doula prior to being a mom. But when I went to find a ring sling that was locally made and fashion forward, I couldn’t find anything.
I had experience starting a product based business with my husband (G Fox & Co - www.gfxoco.ca ) and I thought hell, why don’t I just do it myself! It seemed like the perfect option to allow me to work from home and stay with my babe too.
What has been your biggest challenge as a working mom? Your biggest reward?
Biggest challenge has been finding the time, and accepting that I may not be able to grow as fast as I want to in business. Not as an excuse but simply because I’m not willing to sacrifice more time with my son.
The biggest reward has been the intense feeling of accomplishments and personal gratification. It’s like having another type of baby, watching your business become it’s own things and watching people respond to it.
Where do you think working mom guilt comes from and how can women overcome it?
Missing important moments. We all know it’s harder for us being away than it is on the kiddos- but I just don’t know if we can help it.
I think the best way to overcome it is to realize you’re setting a great example for your children. Pursuing your passions, working hard and showing them that dreams can come true.
What have you found to be the motivations and benefits for women that take on the extra stress and time crunch of combining work and family?
The motivation for me was definitely a need to feel like I was making a contribution. I also need to feel challenged and intellectually stimulated. I personally need to feel like I am an effective human being and that I am making some sort of an impact.
What would be your time-saving tip for your fellow working moms?
Honestly, this is a toughie. My two best tips would be to write everything down (I’m working a system for how to organize everything I write down called Getting Things Done by David Allen). I also constantly ask myself what my top priority is and what tasks will most help me work towards that.
I can’t say I have had a great system for time management. There are definitely times where I want to sit down with a glass of wine and watch Netflix, but I realize I HAVE to sit down and knock a couple things off my to-do list before I can relax. And some nights you have to dedicate to your dream instead of relaxing.
Who or what gives you your daily dose of inspiration?
I get most of my inspiration from Instagram to be honest. Most recently I am really admiring Jen Gotch, Valeria Lipovetsky, and Chidera Eggerue (The Slumflower).
What advice would you give to other working moms when it comes to balancing a career, family, and self-care?
I think the word balance is completely misused. Balance doesn’t mean juggling everything at once, it means understanding that some weeks and months you have to dedicate more of your time to one of those three things.
But not to ever go too long without forgetting about each. Some months you have to let the biz take a back seat and really prioritize your family or your personal health.
I truly believe you can have everything, just not all at the same time. And also, be easy on yourself more often than not.
Bonus: Do you have a favorite quote? Share with us if so!
Honestly, that quote above! I think Ruth Bader Ginsburg said it first but Oprah also said something very similar. “You can have it all, just not all at once.” It helps me remember that I have time for all the things I want to do and not to put so much pressure on myself to be perfect in every realm of my life.