The List Every Mom Will Love

How many of you have seen those countless lists going around detailing all of things you should NOT say to various types of moms (working moms, stay-at-home moms, single moms, etc.)? Honestly, every time I see one of them, I think about how many times have I apparently been a jerk and said something to offend another mom without meaning to. Who can keep track of all the things not to say, anyway? I always wonder after reading those – what exactly is left to say?

I work in marketing and public relations, and the goal is always to frame things in a positive light. So, in that spirit, I started to think about what we can say to other moms to help uplift them. Without further ado, here is a list of things any mom would be happy to hear:

Compliments

If a picture is worth a thousand words, then a compliment is worth just as many smiles and warm vibes. Any compliment at all--on a mom’s hairstyle, on their kid’s shoes--really, anything nice always goes a long way.

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Positive Reinforcements

Whether it’s your lifelong friend or a mom you’ve only known a short time, remind them they are an amazing mom. A simple “You’re doing an awesome job” really can brighten any mom’s day.   

Invitations

We all know as moms that we get busy fast, but don’t let that stand in your way of inviting mom friends to coffee, wine, moms’ night out, play dates, etc. As moms, we need other amazing parents in our corner to travel through this crazy adventure of parenthood together. Can’t get a sitter? Don’t worry--other moms struggle with that same problem, so turn your mom outing into a play date. Don’t forget that moms who work during the day need a break, too, so having a moms’ night out is always a great idea.

Share ‘Battle’ Stories

As moms, most of us are natural storytellers about the funny and crazy things that happen with our kids. Next time you are stumped for a conversation starter with another mom, ask “What’s the funniest story you have from something your child has said?” You’ll find moms quickly bond over those funny moments. Kids really do say the darndest things! Best of all, who couldn’t use some extra laughter in their day?

Reminders of Love

How many times have you seen a mom with her child and it’s so obvious the love they share? Next time you witness  it, be sure to tell that mom, “It’s obvious how much you love your kids and they love you.” After all, that love is really what matters to parents. It’s what makes this crazy journey all worthwhile.  

So, be afraid no longer of what not to say, and go out and encourage another fellow mom with one of these statements. Forget the mom labels for a moment and remember we are all on this motherhood journey together. Let’s make the chaotic commute just a little less chaotic by sharing some encouraging words with each other!