Our awesome interview with hardworking twin super momma, Melissa Pessis
Name: Melissa Pessis
Kid(s): 2 Kids, twin girls, Sadie & Remy, almost 4 years old
Official work title and company: Nurse Practitioner, Fertility and Reproductive Medicine – Northwestern Medicine
Location: Highland Park
What has been your biggest challenge as a working mom? Your biggest reward?
Biggest challenge – Missing the drop off/pick up at school. As silly as it sounds, I think you can gain a lot of insight and learn a lot about your kids during those two quick-ish moments in the day. You get a glimpse of who they gravitate to in the classroom and how they connect with their peers and teachers.
Biggest Reward – My kids are starting to understand what I do for work. They are curious and ask a lot of questions. On a recent trip to Florida, a man became very ill on the plane – twice over the loud speaker, there was a request for medical assistance. I was with my kids, my husband and my mom (who offered my services)…my kids now think my job is to save people on airplanes for a living.
Where do you think working mom guilt comes from and how can women overcome it?
I think it comes from the grass is always greener concept. Wanting what you don’t or can’t have. We have to overcome it by being confident with our choice and circumstances. I personally have to remind myself that working is my choice – I tried the stay at home thing and on my 6th week called my old boss to beg for my job back. That is always floating in the back of my mind. I am a better mom for my kids because I work.
What have you found to be the motivations and benefits for women that take on the extra stress and time crunch of combining work and family?
For me personally, it is feeling like I am an equal partner and contributor to our family and future. It certainly isn’t easy to work and raise kids, but it does make things more financially comfortable for us and that is important.
What would be your time-saving tip for your fellow working moms?
Rotisserie Chicken. Always.
Who or what gives you your daily dose of inspiration?
For sure the only man in the house, BP! I don’t say it often and more times than not you’ll hear me complain about his weekly travels and other short comings. But, he really is amazing and inspires me every day. It takes a special person to stay cool, calm and collected with three very strong female personalities at home.
What advice would you give to other working moms when it comes to balancing a career, family, and self-care?
Self-care. Make it happen.