My nanny had a playdate with my best friend
My nanny had a playdate with my best friend. Let me say that again: last Thursday, my nanny and my two kiddos met my best friend and her kiddos for a playdate at a play space.
My heart was literally split in two; my emotions were divided down the middle. I was happy and sad all at the same time. I was jealous. I was thrilled. I had FOMO. I was grateful.
As a working mom, I sometimes get home at night and scroll through social media to see pictures of playdates or girls’ outings that occurred throughout the day. On the one hand, I feel sad; I feel like I missed out. I feel like I don’t have a core group of friends because my day is spent at work. However, on the other hand, I was at work--running meetings, being a leader, interacting with other like-minded professionals, and growing my career. Neither is right, neither is wrong. Last Thursday I was reminded of just that.
I was so thrilled to have a nanny that I love and trust and who is truly a part of my family. A nanny who is comfortable interacting with my best friend and spending time with her on a playdate. I was so happy that my son and my best friend’s son and my daughter and my best friend’s daughter--who are all very similar in age--were able to have a day together. I can only hope that we are helping them to be next-generation besties as well. But I must admit that I was sad, too. That should have been me, not my nanny. I was sad to miss out on that time to see our kids interact and to be with my best friend. I was sad that my best friend was documenting our kids interacting and I was getting still photos and videos at my desk while they were there in person.
But, at the end of the day, I was fulfilled. I was fulfilled that my kids were able to have this experience with their friends, and that I have a village to facilitate such a special outing, and that I could continue to work so I can provide for my children. I can only hope that my nanny has more play dates with my best friend in the future…and maybe I’ll even crash one or two.