You Bet on You

Knowing when to place one priority over another is never an easy task. It becomes an even harder decision when you are a working mother.  You have a pressing conference call that you must take to make sure that your urgent problem at work gets taken care of, but you also know that if you take that call you will miss a bed time/soccer game/school play that you will not get back.  There are times when the conference call wins out, and times when the family/kid activity wins out. Then there are times when modern technology affords you the incredible solution of taking the call on the way to the game, or video conferencing into the ballet recital to see the performance “live”. It may not be the perfect solution, but it is just sometimes going to have to do.  

Nine out of ten times, no matter what decision you make, you will probably feel #momguilt if you choose the call, or #employeeguilt (does that exist?) if you don’t stay to finish the call. We are pulled in so many directions that it can be hard to keep our heads above water. But we all just need to take a moment to breathe. Do it with me: In your nose and out your mouth. In your nose and out your mouth. Pick your favorite mantra. “Everything is good. I am good in this moment.” Because the reality is, we can only do as much as we can do and then we move on to the next activity, call, moment.  We have to accept our decision and let it roll off our shoulders. If work wins out today, then our children’s game/art show needs to win out tomorrow. The balance needs to be exactly that-- balance.

As working moms, we need to give ourselves grace, kindness, and a little breather to be okay if we mess up; sometimes we choose the wrong decision to take the call or go to the game. Because the honest to goodness truth is that neither one of these decisions is the “right” decision.  One may argue that the game is more important, and another will argue that, in that moment, the call was. Your gut is almost always right. It is you you can trust, you you can bet on.  So, I am giving you permission to bet on you and trust in yourself.  You got this. Take on today knowing you are doing the best you can do in this moment…and that’s doing a lot.